Updated: March 2, 2021
If you’re a caring person with any kind of heart, it’s never easy to break up with anyone. So when you still love them, it becomes even more complicated and difficult. But if you’ve gone back and forth many times already trying to make things work, and haven’t managed to, you sometimes know it’s the right thing to do.
1. Remember that love on its own is not enough
When we’re young and yet to know better, we convince ourselves that love is all you need to make a relationship bloom. But the reality is, a relationship requires so much more. It needs trust, commitment, communication, kindness, compromise, and then some.
2. List the reasons why you want to break up
When you still love someone, it’s easy to be blinded and influenced by the power of that love. That’s why you need to remind yourself why you want to break up with your boyfriend. Make a list of all the reasons why this is the right decision for you. Forget about hurting his feelings, this is for your eyes only.
3. Have the courage to do it in person
You might want to not hurt his feelings and stop yourself from chickening out in person, but ending a relationship by text or phone isn’t respectful. It also leaves things unfinished and doesn’t offer the other person closure. There might be questions, and things left to say.
4. Avoid playing the blame game
Even if you’re breaking up with him because of poor behavior on his part, there doesn’t need to be an argument. To avoid this, resist the urge to point the finger and place blame, even if you feel it’s mostly his fault. This will only make you both feel worse, and leave things on a sour note.
5. Prepare for their reaction
If your boyfriend is in love with you, and the break up comes out of nowhere, then it’s likely he’ll be confused, hurt, angry, sad, and feeling a roller coaster of emotions. That’s why it’s important to be prepared for this so it doesn’t ambush you.
6. Don’t have break up sex
This one’s kinda obvious, but you’d be surprised how often it happens! You don’t need me to tell you that having sex confuses and complicates things, so just don’t do it! You’ll end up sending them and yourself mixed signals.
7. Remove constant reminders of them
You don’t have to throw everything away that he bought you, or delete all the photos you have from your relationship. But you want to be careful about what you have to see every day.
8. Put your health and happiness first
And finally, the last but most important step is to think about yourself. Sometimes we don’t do that enough! You might be worried about him, or what your friends and family will say, but at the end of the day this is your life. It’s okay to make selfish decisions and do what’s best for you.
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