Friends of slain Ole Miss student Ally Kostial say her alleged killer was ‘a misogynist’ who ‘definitely had a violent streak’ 2023

Updated: January 25, 2023

Ally Kostial

Ally Kostial.


  • A University of Mississippi student, Brandon Theesfeld, has been arrested and charged with murder in the death of Alexandria “Ally” Kostial, 21, who also attended Ole Miss.
  • Kostial’s body was found not far from the university’s campus.
  • She was described by friends and family as well-liked, athletic, and driven.
  • Several of Kostial’s friends told various publications that she had dated Theesfeld on and off. They described him as emotionally abusive and misogynistic and said he had “a violent streak.”
  • Theesfeld’s father has said his son didn’t kill Kostial.
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A 21-year-old University of Mississippi student who disappeared on a Friday night after leaving a bar was found dead earlier this month, her body discovered not far from the Ole Miss campus.

In the wake of Alexandria “Ally” Kostial’s death, friends and family are demanding justice and trying to piece together what happened as information emerges about Brandon Theesfeld, 22, who last week was charged with murder.

Friends and family members have described Kostial as well-liked and someone who immersed herself in a slew of social activities. She was a member of the Alpha Phi sorority and the president of the university’s golf club. This summer she was attending school and teaching fitness classes.

Kostial’s friends have told various publications that Kostial and Theesfeld dated on and off for a few years while they were business students at Ole Miss. Photos of the two were found on one of her social-media pages.

Kostial and Brandon Theesfeld.

Several friends have painted a disturbing picture of their relationship, describing Theesfeld as emotionally abusive toward Kostial.

Rex Ravita told the Daily Beast that Theesfeld was known around the campus as “a misogynist” and “definitely had a violent streak.”

“Ally would talk about how crazy aggressive he was,” an unnamed friend of Kostial’s told the Daily Beast. “I don’t know how many times she called me about him. About how he was treating her and about how he acted when they were together.”

Mary Ellen Manor told the local NBC affiliate WLBT that she met Theesfeld on Tinder and went on two dates with him. She described him as “just odd,” “very sketchy,” and “shady.”

“When I’d try to say, like, ‘No, I’m busy this weekend’ or something, he said, ‘Oh, it’s OK, like, I’m not crazy or anything, I was just seeing what you were doing,'” she told WLBT.

Theesfeld was booked into the Lafayette County Jail in Oxford last week and has been suspended from Ole Miss’ School of Business Administration. He grew up in Fort Worth, Texas, where he attended a private boarding school.

Ravita, who had lived in the same dorm as Theesfeld, described him as arrogant and egotistical in an interview with KMOV, a CBS affiliate in St. Louis.

“I’m not going to sugarcoat it: Like, he was pretty much a daddy’s-boy type. Constantly had to reference his father’s money, how his dad could get him out of anything. I mean, just that attitude all the time,” Ravita told KMOV.

“Any type of vulgar comment he could say, any type of rude comment to anybody in our dorm, like, any of the women,” Ravita added.

Theesfeld’s father, Daniel Theesfeld, said in a statement to WLBT that his son didn’t kill Kostial.

“I know my son is innocent,” Daniel Theesfeld said. “And I have reasons to believe that I can’t share anything now. But I would ask everybody to please give him the presumption of innocence until proven otherwise.”


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